Lesbian pleasure and sexuality

You may not have had sex with a woman before, but keep in mind that she has never had sex with YOU before. Although there are generally some things that most women do enjoy in bed, we are all different and something that turns someone else on, might not do the trick for you.

Women love to give and receive oral sex.

Others don't care for it all. Some women enjoy penetration and others do not. It's up to you to figure out what you do and do not like.

The thing to remember is that there really is nothing you can do wrong when having sex for the first time, aside from hurting your partner. She should tell you if anything you do hurts and then you'll stop. Just try to stay in the moment and move the way you feel drawn to move. Tell her what feels good and if something doesn't feel good, it's okay to tell her to stop, or to slow down, or speed up. What ever it is you're wanting.

The good thing about having sex with someone who has had lesbian sex before is that she knows what to expect.

Having sex for the first time can be a really intense experience and sharing it with someone who has been there before can calm you down. She can ask questions and she may even have the answers.

You might feel any number of ways after your first lesbian sexual experience. You may be elated and excited about what has happened to you. You might feel closer to your partner.

Or you might feel somewhat sad or disappointed. You might feel extra vulnerable and need your partner to reassure you that everything went okay. You might want her to hold you. You might want some time alone. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need and to take care of yourself.

To have the best sex, whether oral or other, spend some time and get your lover excited before making the plunge. Tease her whole body before you head south.

Having oral sex with your lover, it's not all about her clitoris.

Let your mouth and tongue explore her whole labia, clitoris and vagina.

Slowly lick up her thighs and kiss her vulva.

Spread her legs and open her lips with your fingers. Take a look. Tell her how beautiful she looks.

Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it like a butterfly wings. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit.